I work from home. This is where I thrive. I focus hard every – damn – day on my business, growing it and learning ways to become the best I can be for YOU, my family and myself. One little fact is that I’m also a Mom – and this one of the most challenging things in my life. It has brought me so much happiness, worry, love and frustration.
Having kids brings a lot of issues, but I never thought I would be as lost as a person when I started my Real Estate business.
In the beginning I was so focused on my work that I forgot to be there for my kids. Not only that, I was also taking a lot of unnecessary stress, a lot of it due to anxiety, but we’ll chat more on anxiety next week.
Today I want to talk about this “BALANCE” that we hear so much about these days because I’m so frustrated with every parent trying to have this so called “balanced” life, like it’s something that should come naturally or easily, or even more, something that is even POSSIBLE…
Balance, the DAMN word gets thrown at me all the time…BALANCE, how do you balance it all? TRUTH – I don’t. No one does, and there is no such thing as balance because life doesn’t work that way. The moment you start trying to BALANCE it all is the moment you will run yourself to the point of exhaustion.
Instead of balance, there is being PRESENT – when your kids need you, you give them your all. No half paying attention while you deal with work stuff. If you have a work issues, you handle that – go to your office and work on that until you can be present again with the family. When the family isn’t home, work like a dog. Get it done! Easier said than done of course, but all you can do is try your best. That is all that matters at the end of the day – you tried. It doesn’t matter if you messed up. Love your family, care for them and when work comes up talk to them about it. I used to think I could do it all, but what I was really doing was building up guilt and frustration and my body shut down. Give your work everything you’ve got when it’s work time, then when your kids, husband or whatever need you, you can be present and give them what they need at that time. It’s not always going to work out and sometimes communication with children is necessary – explain to children about your work structure.
The most important thing I’ve learned from trying to “balance” work and family life is that you can’t balance them as much as you need to keep them separated and be present with who is in front of you, be it your work or your family. Otherwise, you will only half succeed at at both and you’ll be left to flounder in frustration and guilt. Trust me, I’ve been there before too many times and have had to learn the hard way. Take it from me. I’ve come out on the positive side of it all though and learned from my mistakes. That what parenting is all about, learning and teaching each other as we go. My kids have taught me so much and I know now that when we are needed as a parent, we are better off in all aspects of our life if we fully devote our attention and be present. Don’t try to balance, just be there when you are needed.
Leave your comments below on how you manage your business working from home and what you do to keep work and family separated. We are all in this together, and I’d love to hear your views on all of this, and what helps you manage/cope.